There has been so much mythology surrounding Perpetual Virgins that most people think they aren’t real.

When you hear the term “Perpetual Virgin” the first image that comes to mind is probably of The Virgin Mary. Or, perhaps you may think of Catholic saints, Vestal Virgins, or ancient goddesses. There has been so much mythology surrounding Perpetual Virgins that most people think they aren’t real. I used to be one of those people as I commented in my biography How I came to be a Perpetual Virgin. But a Perpetual Virgin is really just an average person with a not so average life.

First and foremost, a Perpetual Virgin is a Virgin that is naturally oriented toward living an unmarried, sexually inactive life — and makes a conscious decision to do so. But there are other things that define a Perpetual Virgin too, and I have comprised a list of them.

You might be a Perpetual Virgin if…

• You believe that staying a Virgin is the way of life that is best for your personal happiness and well-being, and is good for fulfilling your goals in life.
• You believe sexual purity beings you closer to God or spiritual perfection.
• You would never even consider doing anything sexually that would even remotely damage or compromise your sexual purity.
• You believe staying a Virgin makes you better suited for some kinds of religious service, or is the best lifestyle for following the spiritual path of your choice.
• Your spirit is blissfully happy most of the time.
• Your spirit is very vigorous and energetic most of the time.
• You find the thought of marriage depressing.
• You don’t believe in abusing alcohol, doing drugs, smoking, swearing, or anything that is not pure in nature.
  
• You don’t particularly want, need, or crave the orgasmic aspect of sexuality, though you have a normal sex drive and there is nothing physically wrong with you.
• You have a strong desire for sexual intimacy, but don’t want sex itself in any form.
• You prefer to dress modestly, not showing too much skin, because you don’t want to attract unchaste sexual attention.
• You don’t appreciate it when someone comes on to you in a sexually unchaste way.
• You just don’t see what all the fuss over sex is about. It seems like a big deal over nothing. You get bored or disgusted watching sex scenes in movies.
• You believe your virginity, your body, and your sexuality belongs to you and no one else — and you question the concept of “saving” them for someone.
• You are not entirely comfortable with traditional gender roles and don’t want the burden of being bound by them that the loss of Virginity, or a conventional relationship would bring.
• Your virginity means so much to you that you are willing to endure criticism, loneliness, persecution, ridicule or whatever it takes to keep it.
• Your Virginity means a lot to you and you would regret it for the rest of your life if you traded it in for a relationship that didn’t work.
• You don’t feel you need to get married to obtain happiness, fulfillment, or worth.
• You personally view all sex, consensual or not, as a kind of rape.
• You believe that marriage is slavery for the woman and prison for the man.
• You don’t feel you need to have sex to prove that you are an adult or a “real” woman/man.
• You believe that unmarried chastity better enables you to pursue your dreams and do a lot of good in the world because you are not confined by having to care for a spouse and children.
• Sex does not represent a temptation for you.
• You believe that a God/destiny guides your life and that you have been allowed to remain a Virgin into adulthood for a purpose.
• You love being a virgin and can’t imagine life any other way.

If you are a Virgin and you recognized yourself in many of these statements, if you feel something stirring inside you, if overall this sounds rational or makes sense — then you might be oriented or “called” to the life of a Perpetual Virgin. You can explore it and see where it leads or you can ignore it and live a normal life. Either way… Perpetual Virginity is real.