Confessions of an ex-Gleek

It was bound to happen and it finally did. Last night on Glee, Rachel, the show’s most prominent Virgin character, lost her Virginity.

In this episode, Rachel was cast to play the starring role of Maria in the school production of West Side Story. During rehearsal Artie, who was put in charge of directing the show, criticized Rachel for supposedly “not having enough passion” to accurately play the part of Maria. West Side Story was a play about “sexual awakening”, he said, and he made a speech about his own “sexual awakening” and how he “felt like a man” when he lost his Virginity. Assuming that everyone had sex, Artie asked Rachael what it was like for her when she lost her Virginity. When Rachael said she hadn’t, Artie bashed her asking how could she expect to play the role of a sexually awakened woman when she hadn’t done the deed herself. (Since when did Artie become a n expert on sex? He only got laid once!)  At that point, Rachael, who always strives for perfection, decides to have sex with her on-again-off-again boyfriend, Finn, in order to improve her acting. After some drama surrounding her first botched attempt to get in Finn’s pants when she admits to him that wants to screw him mainly to improve her acting… Rachael ends up having sex with Finn by the end of the show having assured him that she really does “love” him.

I am just sooo done with this show. I used to like it, but I’ve really gotten  tired of it. I was ready to bail after last week’s show, but when I saw that this week’s episode was going to have Virgin subject matter, I hung around figuring it would make a good topic for my blog. But now I can officially say that last night’s episode will be my last.

So why has Glee lost its groove for me? In short, I’m tired of being offended. I’m especially tired of the hypocrisy of a show that claims to be about tolerance but is only tolerant of those who are in the pop culture clique. I’m tired of being told that, as a Virgin, there is something wrong with me that needs to be fixed. I am tired of watching Virgins being pushed into lockers, insulted, humiliated and misrepresented as if it’s OK.

I knew before this week’s episode even aired that Rachael would probably lose her Virginity. She nearly lost it in the “Like a Virgin” episode when Finn lost his and I though it was unlikely that they would miss the mark a second time. There’s just no way that they would allow the main character in one of TV’s most popular shows to remain a Virgin. As for Glee’s other Virgin characters, their days are numbered too. Emma Pillsbury is already living with Mr. Schuster. And after anti-chaste Artie made an issue of Coach Biest’s Virginity last night, he went out of his way to hook her up. It’s only a matter of time before the other shoe drops but I won’t be there to see it.

Glee hits a sour note for adult Virgins

Glee, that show about a geeky high school glee club, is a guilty pleasure that I’m almost embarrassed to admit I like. It’s a cornball, PG-13, pop music, high school, bubblegum, melodrama that at my age I’m supposed to be above watching. Still, I never miss an episode. And tonight is Glee night, so I’ll be parked in front of my TV set with a bag of microwave popcorn as usual. I don’t know what’s in store this week, but last week was as melodramatic as ever when a hip and popular substitute teacher played by Gwyneth Paltrow, almost took Mr. Schuster’s job as Glee club director. However, it’s episode that aired the week before it that I’m still reeling from. In this episode called never been kissed Coach Beiste outed herself as a Virgin when she admitted that she had never kissed.

Although Glee is one of my favorite shows and I appreciate the fact that  it  has made Virgins more visible in that it has several Virgin characters, I resent the stereotypical image of Virginity presented in the never been kissed episode.The idea that adult Virgins are just unattractive losers that can’t get laid is one of the most pervasive stereotypes out there, and Glee perpetuates it through Coach Beiste.

The physical appearance of Coach Beiste, the hefty, unattractive female gym teacher that coaches the football team, has been the butt of jokes since her character first appeared on the show. Even her name is a joke because “Beiste” sounds like “beast“, and that is essentially what she is being called. In the never been kissed episode, her appearance was mocked by the glee kids who used mental images of her to kill their sexual desire during make-out sessions with partners that wouldn’t put out. After she had been insulted and publicly humiliated by this she revealed in a sob story to Mr. Schuster that she was 40 and had never been kissed. Mr. Schuster gave her a “pity kiss” which she gladly accepted as any stereotypical Virgin with no chance of getting a man would. 

The stereotypical image of Virginity as a condition of sexually undesirable people is based on prejudice and ignorance. Looks have nothing to do with sexual experience. Lots of unattractive people have lost their Virginity simply because they were willing to put out; and lots of attractive people have kept their Virginity because they don’t believe in sleeping around. Coach Beast (Oops, I mean, Coach Beiste.) does not represent the majority of adult Virgins any more than Emma Pillsbury, the other adult Virgin character on the show whose paranoid fear of germs makes her avoid all closeness and intimacy, does. I think it’s sad that Glee which is supposed to be all about acceptance cannot accept adult Virginity without negative stereotypes. And I think its hypocritical that a show that promotes a message of tolerance would promote the intolerant view that there must be something wrong with someone who remains a Virgin into adulthood.

It’s wonderful that Glee has helped to make Virgins more visible by portraying them as part of the social landscape, but it’s only until Glee accepts Virgins and Virginity without stereotypes or prejudice that it will actually practice what it preaches.

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